Life with a reactive dog…
Living with a reactive dog, like my dog River, can be both challenging and rewarding. River isn’t aggressive, but her fear-based reactions to certain triggers — like other dogs or unfamiliar people — have previously made everyday walks feel like a high-wire act. Over time, I’ve learned that managing a reactive dog requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to adapt.
A reactive dog like River responds strongly to triggers, often out of fear or overstimulation. Previously for River, it's been smaller dogs that set her off — barking, lunging, or pulling me towards them. It’s not about aggression; it’s a flight or fight response in the moment, acting on instinct and her memories of being attacked as a pup. Accepting this has been a big part of my journey with her. Over time, I’ve started working on desensitising her — rewarding calm behaviour and gradually exposing her to her triggers in controlled ways. It’s slow progress, but we’re getting there.
The key to success with River has been patience and consistent training. Positive reinforcement, like rewarding calm behaviour with treats or toys, has helped her learn that not every dog or person is a threat. Training isn’t quick, but the small victories — like getting through a walk without a meltdown or being able to stop for a coffee — are worth celebrating.
River is a high-energy dog, so physical exercise is essential, but I’ve learned that mental stimulation is just as important. We do scent work, puzzle games, and obedience training, which helps tire her out in a constructive way and keeps her from focusing on triggers. Over the last three years with her, I’ve understood more than ever, how a challenged dog is a calmer dog.
The hardest part has been adjusting my expectations. River may never be fully relaxed around other dogs or people, but that’s okay. We’ve learned to adapt our walks and slow down interactions with family members, to keep her comfortable always. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s progress. Every calm interaction feels like a win.
Living with a reactive dog can be emotionally taxing. Taking breaks, talking to others who understand the challenges, and working with a trainer have all helped me stay sane through the process. I remind myself that River isn’t trying to make my life difficult; she’s doing her best.
Life with a reactive dog is a journey of growth for both of us. While there will always be challenges, I’m committed to supporting River through her fears and helping her navigate the world. We’re learning together, one step at a time, and that’s enough. If you have a reactive dog, remember that small victories count. With patience, understanding, and a bit of creativity, you and your dog can thrive together.
